"That's not a bad thing, but it would be niceto have both," says the Eliot House resident.

Other students, however, are willing to givetheir classmates more credit. "I think it prettymuch runs the spectrum," says Oxley. "I don'tthink it's a status symbol or anything. It's justsomething people choose to do or not do."

Many students agree that the "sexualatmosphere" at Harvard cannot be easily described,and that each individual views it differently.

"If I had been punched for a final club, Imight have something different to say," Fishmansays. "In my social group,. sex is very muchassociated with being in a relationship. Sex goeswith love."

Or maybe not, Mindich says that men generallywant sex on the first date. but are willing towait. "For some reason, the longer I have to wait.the longer [the relationship] lasts," he says."You build up more of the emotional."

No matter how experienced or inexperiencedHarvard students are, they love to talk about sex.

"Harvard is a liberal school, Nothing goeswithout mentioning here; people talk abouteverything. It's definitely out in the open,"Coady says. "If someone visits me from anotherschool, I think they're a bit surprised at theopenness."

Sex at Harvard was more "our in the open" thanusual when the April Esquire magazinedescribed the school's "sexual politics" to therest of America. Yet, many students say that"Sleeping with the Enemy," an article written byLinda M. Darling '72, depicted the schoolinaccurately.

The article, featuring the observations ofseveral Dunster residents, only focused on anarrow slice of the entire undergraduatepopulation, they say.

Mindich, who was interviewed for the piece,says that the piece "pissed me off That is not sexat Harvard" Mindich says not only were hiscomments not used, but he felt that Darling merelystereotyped him as one of the "preppies in EliotHouse."

Saalfield says she also objects to the article,especially its depiction of women at Harvard, "TheEsquire article portrayed Harvard Women aspretty pathetic," she says.

"I think she may have had specific intentionsin mind" from the beginning. Saalfield says aboutDarling. "I'm not sure she was hearing peopleopenly."

Both Saalfield and Mindich says they object tothe sticker on the issue's front cover, but fordifferent reasons. Saalfield felt the sticker,"How to Make Love to a Harvard Woman." wasdegrading to women Mindich, however, says it isinaccurate because many in thearticle"don't make love to Harvard women.

Though the AprilEsquire is off thenewsstands, Harvard students angst aboutrelationships continue. While many studentsridicule Darling's suggestions that love atHarvard is nearly impossible, they do say thatthere may be traits inherent to Harvard studentswhich make it difficult to find true love.

This is, after all, Harvard, whereintellectualism reigns supreme.