But the same system that forces women to be slaves forces men to be masters. To love another person you must understand that he or she is different from yourself, that he or she is another complete person who lives another complete life.

When a woman is forced to change diapers and wash dishes and pluck her eyebrows, she is forced to become less than a person, she is forced to lead less than a life. If love is a relationship between people, then no love is possible in a society that requires half of the society to be servants and whores to the other half. No love is possible in a society that makes every man feel that a woman's idea is a challenge to his masculinity.

This much we have all felt. This society not only forces people to compete with each other as objects in the labor market, but it also forces people to compete with each other as people. What we find in most other people is a way of supporting our own egos. We cannot stop manipulating and objectifying. Other people, both men and women, are either a challenge or a way of getting what we want.

This society provides no way to live happily with another person. If the man works and the woman does not, the woman becomes a slave. If both work, they can probably have no kids, because there are no day care centers. Besides, the system makes sure that most women never get a creative job-there are so few left in this country anyway.

The only place where men and women can work together as equals is in the movement. Men and women can overcome what divides them only by fighting together against it. Most radical organizations have yet to allow women an equal voice. Most have yet to understand what it means to follow the leadership of women. But the only place in this society where people face the problem is where they are fighting against it.

I find that the only way that I can relate to women without having to tear out my hair over the anxieties I feel from the feelings and ideas about male supremacy that I am unable to purge, is to work together with them as equals in a struggle that we both agree is necessary.

The Vietnamese have shown the way. They learned about equality of men and women through experience. Here is their program on women's liberation, from the expanded fourteen-point program adopted in August 1967. Remember that it is the U.S. that claims to be liberating the Vietnamese.

"9. To carry out equality between man and woman and to protect mothers and children.

To pay the utmost attention to raising the political, cultural and vocational standard of women, in view of their merits in the struggle against U.S. aggression, for national salvation. To develop the Vietnamese women's traditions of heroism, dauntlessness, fidelity and ability to shoulder responsibilities.

Women are equal to men in the political, economic, cultural, and social fields.

Women workers and civil servants enjoy two months' maternity leave with full pay, before and after childbirth.

Women who do the same job receive the same salary and allowances and enjoy the same rights as men.

To apply a policy of actively favouring, fostering and training women cadres.

To promulgate progressive marriage and family regulations.

To protect the rights of mothers and children. To develop the network of maternity homes, creches and infant classes.